How often do you catch yourself thinking about how you wish things would have gone, or how you want things to be? Are you a worrier? Do you try to solve problems before they even occur?
The most important thing to do is to stay in the now. You have to stop letting any thoughts affect you other than what is here, what is now.
Write down your goals. What you need to do to achieve them, and achieve them wholeheartedly rather than adopt a sub-par approach.
Decisions that you have taken and have gone bad, discard them. Don’t think about them and imagine how your life would be if you had done that one thing differently. Because you haven’t. And it’s okay. You need to deal with what you are going through at this moment. My mother always tells me, “Suck it up and do what you have to do.”
It’s okay to wallow in grief for a given period of time. You’re entitled to be sad. But afterwards, you need to move on. Moving on is an important step of life. Priorities need to be set. The goals you wrote earlier, you need to get on with achieving them.
And let go of people that are harmful to you. As trees are pruned by removing the unhealthy branches, treat yourself as a tree that removes the poisonous branches in order to grow better. Anyone who is stopping you from doing what you have to do, willingly or unwillingly, discard them immediately. They are a bane to your growth. Don’t keep them on or don’t keep lingering in the past. The past is something which is done and over with. You can’t change it.
Your future, where you want to be in life in the next few years, that is more important to safeguard. And you safeguard your future by taking care of your present. Surprise, surprise, that means staying in the now.
So stay in the now. Look at experiences as an opportunity and not as a potential problem. Be optimistic. Don’t fret about what could happen. Pay attention to what is happening now.